The first step on escaping a Narcissist

During times of stress we don’t see clearly. Stress drains us and makes us feel weak. We cannot think straight. We feel hopeless and powerless. We are being controlled and manipulated. We can say all day long that this is Herman us yet we don’t know the next step. No action will be taken andContinue reading “The first step on escaping a Narcissist”

It’s not you that makes him angry!

You wern’t involved in their past trauma!You didn’t cause their trauma.You had no part in their Trauma so do NOT respond like you caused it!You don’y owe them anything and You have NOTHING to make up for.Those are their insecurities, their issues that they need to work on just like many others with past issues.Don’tContinue reading “It’s not you that makes him angry!”

When the Narcissist involves other people to use against you

When you’re in an abusive relationship and you feel so stuck, lost and hopeless, you can actually feel the toxicity they have injected into your mind leaving you an empty shell. I had checked out of my mind leaving my body feel paralysed.I was disconnected.I wasn’t aware of time anymore. My mind checked me outContinue reading “When the Narcissist involves other people to use against you”

Breaking up with a Narcissist

After all the thoughts he had implanted in my mind over and over with consistency, focus and determination eventually I had hated myself more then I ever had been before.Everytime I told him to get out for good, I would get the response as “If you kick me out I will end my life andContinue reading “Breaking up with a Narcissist”

When You Leave The Narcissist For Too Long While You Go To The Bathroom

This happened at my friend’s 21st birthday party and I was having a chat with a friend in the bathroom. This was the first time he gave out to me in front of other people. When I came back out he was pissed at me. “Don’t f**king do that again!” He said.I was able toContinue reading “When You Leave The Narcissist For Too Long While You Go To The Bathroom”

When You Start To Look Happy The Narcissist Will Take You Down Again

Anytime I tried to do something good for me such as meet with a friend or try out a new dance class he told me that I was being selfish and how I did everything in order to suit me which would break me down. Really though that is the Narcissist losing control of themselvesContinue reading “When You Start To Look Happy The Narcissist Will Take You Down Again”

When The Narcissist Slags You For How You Dress.

As someone who wears gym gear and tracksuit bottoms to finally feel good in herself to wear a skirt to go out for her friend’s birthday it absolutely FLOORED me when he told me that I looked like a slut.“Me look like a slut?”At the same time I was actually getting fed up with hisContinue reading “When The Narcissist Slags You For How You Dress.”

When The Narcissist Yells At You In Front of Your Child

He never stopped! It wouldn’t matter to the narcissist. Even of the child is 3 years old and witnessing that.By that stage I wanted him out of the house and gone. This is NOT what a child should be witnessing. They might be playing and being children but their subconscious mind is absorbing EVERYTHING andContinue reading “When The Narcissist Yells At You In Front of Your Child”

When The Narcissist Makes You Believe That There is Something Wrong With You

I had lost count how many times the narcissist would say this to me. “What the f**k is wrong with you” over and over for a very long time. If anyone knows anything about self talk, habit and programming the mind, if something is said to us consistently over and over again, then that questionContinue reading “When The Narcissist Makes You Believe That There is Something Wrong With You”

When the Narcissist tells you that his psychiatrist agrees with him about you

This one really hurt and got into my heart and broke me— once upon a time.It was a comment made because my daughter who is Autistic was having difficulties focusing in school. He was blaming me saying it was my fault that she was having problems focusing and not interacting the way other kids do.Continue reading “When the Narcissist tells you that his psychiatrist agrees with him about you”